final paper

 

 

Hugging in Espinosa residence

 

(An analysis using non-verbal theories and relevant theories)

 

 

by Marc Rayjen E. Pelaez

 

COMArts 101

 

 

Prof. Antonino Salvador S. de Veyra

 

March 24,2008

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In the Espinosa residence, everybody was in toil because somebody of great impotance was expected to arrive. Mrs. Sussette, the household mother, together with her goddaughter, whose name is Nina, and other relatives were patiently waiting for that someone to return home.

Without further inquiry, never was it surprising to see the excitement on the face of Mrs. Sussette for the one who was about to arrive was no other than her long departed daughter (Kim). She left Philippines when she was fifteen and stayed under his American father’s custody for almost twenty-five years.

It took no long time when the doorbell rang, A girl entered their gate, then, Mrs. Sussete held the girl’s hands, later, after few moments of chatting, Mrs Sussette introduced Nina, her goddaughter, who is an adopted child and has been a part of the family for long time, to Kim. Nina is never a good dresser, she was looked head to foot by Kim, Right after, She immediately gave Kim a hug. Apparently, Kim’s face turned pissed, More, everybody noticed her alien like behavior which resulted to her mother coming out of picture, since then, she never spoke a word to her anymore.

It has been a tradition in the household that hugging should be appreciated, otherwise it’s already considered unethical.

“A hug is, first of all, a non verbal communication. It brings people together in a feeling of mutual love”(BBC website). And since it is a nonverbal communication act, it carries in it a message.

 

Kine1: Kim stood erect

Kine2: Nina slouched

Kine3: Kim looked at her head to foot

Kine 4: Nina smiled

Kine 5: Kim snobbed

Kine 6: Nina hugged her

Kine 7: Kim resisted

Kine 8: The mother showed dismay

 

She felt so confident and enthusiastic about what is going around, her standing erect showed her being good upbringing,

While on the opposite side, Nina slouching might mean another thing.

Kim looked at her head to foot showing perplexity.

Nina smiled which is an ironic response to what Kim showed her.

Kim snobbed her, another kind of response.

Nina hugged her, this was the most triggering part of the communication act, Kim resisted and payed her no reciprocity.

The mother behaved aberrantly as a response to the previous communication act.

“In order to understand the movement of any single figure in the family system, one has to examine the communication patterns among its members”(Paul Watzlawick)

Kim after a long period of being away from her family in the Philippines, had already developed another atmosphere, different than what she is in now, and as a result, she differently interpreted the hugging that she received. “Every communication has a content and relationship aspect such that the latter classifies the former …”(Ibid)

“Relationship messages are always important element in any communication”(Ibid) Kim, unconsciously, did not coincide with the rules of game her family has established on her absence. Her showing of skepticism somehow showed disagreement against the “family game” which is to never ignore a hug.

“In the systematic approach, we try to understand as quickly as possible the functioning of the system. What kind of reality has this particular system constructed for itself? … every system has its own best explanation.”(Watzlawick). it just so happened that Kim was not really oriented with the function of the family system she faced,.

To support this, Floyd’s “Why a simple act like hug make people uncomfortable” says “ the recipient of hug may feel obligated to respond in kind, even if he or she isn’t particularly affectionate.” Kim coming from a liberal country, found this aberrant, unusual, and awkward.

Kim’s deviant behavior towards Nina can be explained by Floyd who says “ The recipient may not share feeling or share it to the same extent. This happen in new relationship”. Having the little time Kim had with the family, her relationship to them is a major contributory factor for such behavior

Kim most likely was under ambiguity. Floyd adds “ The recipient may misinterpret the gesture, affectionate behavior can be ambiguous, a platonic expression of friendship may be interpreted as romantic , the recipient may suspect that the expression given with an ulterior motive”

“A hug is form of communication between two people”. It can have many messages” Kim in the narration did not relatively reciprocate the hug in response. “Hugging someone unexpectedly without a good reason can be misinterpreted as an assault or intrusion.” actually, the intention by Anna when she hugged Kim was logical and acceptable, yet to look at it in deeper sense, the approach she showed Kim was worth-interpreting.

“Hugs are appropriate for many reasons, but only if you feel comfortable about them.”

Nina, as a complete stranger to Kim did not put in consideration their thirst for more acquaintances, according to the “ the etiquette of hugging” “ let the other person know that you wish to hug them, this is important since hugs can easily be misinterpreted”, given the scenario that Ana tightly hugged Kim, neglecting their less intimacy, she has violated another etiquette of hugging which is “If the person wants a closer hug, they will put themselves closer to you, but this leaves them in charge of how physical close or pressed to you they want to get.”

Going into Kim’s western orientation, the cultural differences in non verbal communication varies, “American, appear almost obsessed with dress and personal attractiveness”

More, personal space is defined by Burgoon as “ invincible, variable volume of space surrounding an individual that defines that individual’s prefered distance from others”

“…The size and shape of our personal space depend on our cultural norms and individual preferences…” (Burgoon). Since Kim as a half American who had spent almost seventy five percent of her life abroad has supposed distance preference, culturally supported. She barely reacted upon the violation made on her supposed proxemic preference. “ People felt psychologically aroused when their proxemic expectations were violated ”(Ibid)

Further, According to the four American’s proxemic zones by Edward Hall, “Intimate distance is about zero to eighteen inches”, Hence, It’s no wonder why Kim reacted in a very varied manner.

“…Violations of expectations in turn may arouse and distract their recipients shifting greater attention to the violator and the meaning of the violation itself…(Hall)

due to the violation made to Kim, there came a sudden change in her mood, and behavior, it was justified by the fact that her distance preference was not followed.

The “Social penetration theory” of Altamn and Taylor says that friendship, romance or family ties is pegged by our relational history, and we judge the value of a relationship by comparing it to the baseline of past experience. Kim under such circumstances, had a few years relational history, hence, the value of quality time of hers to her Filipino family is not that much. she may be had the fifteen years of stay in the Philippines, but it did not guarantee that she did not change.

“When strangers meet, their primary concern is one of uncertainty reduction or increasing predictability about the behavior both themselves and others in the interaction”(Berger). It was a clear stranger to stranger like encounter Kim and Nina went through. It was truly an unexpected thing on the part of Kim to receive such action that basically she was no used to, the predictability on the actions was not clear, she was not able to foresee that action, hence, her uncertainty level was high. her state of interaction visibly took change.

“A non verbal affiliative expressiveness increases, uncertainty levels will decrease in an initial interaction situation. In addition, decreases in uncertainty level will cause increase in non- verbal affiliative expressiveness. (Berger).Kim ironically applied this axiom because the hugging which certainly was an affiliative non verbal action caused her uncertainty as her initial reaction. The uncertainty level by Kim towards Anna was high despite the hug she got from her.

“High levels of of uncertainty produce high rates of reciprocity. Low levels of uncertainty produce low levels of reciprocity.”(Berger)Kim showed this axiom during the communication act.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

References

 

Griffin,EM. A first Look at communication Theory. Hill Book Co, 6^th edition, 2006

Griffin,EM. A first Look at communication Theory. Hill Book Co, 5^th edition, 2003

 

Wood, Julia T. Communication Theories in action: An introduction. California ,USA; Wadsworth Publishing CO. First edition, 1995

Tubbs, Stewart L, Sylvia Moss. Human communication. Singapore: McGraw -Hill Book Co, 8^th edition, 2000

Griffiths, Peter. “Hugging Has an Etiquette.” Rural Roots (2004).

 

 

 

 

tilt the shot glass til the bubbles are killed

times at hand, rumors roar, “i was clouded by the thought that I’m finally given free passport to University of the Philippines. Sixteenth of march, morning, approximately seventeen hundreds, sky as gray as that of an old man’s counting every tick of an old pendulum about his age, wind’s fine, chilling, accommodating, no site of aberrant matter, vehicles and commuters did what they do often. Then, my heart, trembling beating as if its dying, blood pump, oxygen rush, and the atmospheric condition, a scarcity of gaseous entities. Confusing, sweat at wild, I was fooled having in mind the irony and suspicion of cruel weather, but it’s mistakenly concluded. My limbs, weird, pretending not to hear me, disobedient, and a cool parasitic feeling going upward gliding through my veins like bands of hungry ants in search of edibles.hands’ engines loosing power, and I could not refuel them for its unknowable.

 

advice-giving

Abstract

This research tackles communication theories that unifies explanations behind advice-giving phenomena. It is never easy to effectively and convincingly do advice to others if there is a big need for adequate application of communication theories.

Practicality wise, advice whether personal, formal, serious or not, must be well guided by communication theories, otherwise even a tons of words and non verbal cues would be ljust be less useful words and actions in the absence of these theories.

It is not enough that these theories be studied ,what the researcher aims most is to prove them true and present in our day to day activities by careful specimen observation through interviews,questionnaires, and a close room session. How? There shall be sets of advisers with advisees who would do different tasks concerning advice-givings which will after be followed by data gathering and data expression.

I. Introduction

Advice giving has always been a vital necessity in human day to day interaction especially at home through parents; constant reminder of dos and donts. As well in school, teachers, peer counselors and more practice advice-giving.

Basically more often, instead of helping or assisting advisees on their problems what occurs is the ambiguity on the part of the advice-recipient to whether accept the pieces of advice or take it too offensive and impersonal (this might defeat the purpose of advice giving)

Some advisers do have the tendency to misobserve how proper advising must be, gentle and fair approach to the advisee’s concerns, proper VERBAL CUES (voice control, loudness and voice moderation) and non-verbal cues (self presentation while the advising process is going on)

II. Significance of the study

The essences of this research are as follow; First, the research could help understand how the communication theories affect and explain  advice giving process. Second,it can also identify proper ways on the effective advice giving as prescribed by the communication theories, Third, ordinary people, students, teachers, peer counselors, or even the student affairs concerned people might benefit from this research. Students might need pieces of advice about their academic matters..Peer counselors and student affairs people could possibly improve their role in  school if they would benefit from the research.

III. Objectives

1.) Prove that communication theories are working in the advice-giving act.

2.) Identify some faulty and some inconsistency on the communication theories found in the advice-giving dynamics.

3.) Find and suggest for proper ways on the effective advice giving as prescribed by the communication theories.

IV. Methodology

1.) The researcher would like to use the radio recorded “Interview” method as a tool  for the data gathering.

2.) Further, surveys with questions on the research subject shall be disseminated.
3.) Next, conduct an experiment to specific specimens ( sets of advisers and advisees in a control room)  in order to determine if the  research would apply and authenticate the findings.

4.) Use both qualitative and quantitative techniques in data expression.

V. Scopes and limitations

1.) The research is limited only to 50 UP students 20 teachers including faculties and staffs for the research and researcher’s convenience.

2.)The research will only touch advice-giving communication acts that can be associated to communication theories. Any other factors like social, physiological, and psychological theories  and more will be refrained from the study.

3.)The research shall have a time frame of 14 days from the 5th to 19th day of February.

advertise and enterprise

Central route refers to careful and thoughtful evaluation of a stimulus proposed by a persuasion act.

Have you heard about the advertisement “Pau De Arco”?

Drugstores, local or even in nationwide operation, are in sale of this herbal medicines carrying with them the promise of remarkable ill treatment. Often a misleading business strategy of extending and including Pao de Arco product as a wonderful gift from God which is capable of curing even sicknessess with impossible cure like “cancer” is much seen. Manufacturers tell the consumers that it’s a divine thing of wonderful treatment.

Confessions of this product’s effectiveness would afford someone to doubt and rethink ” are these confession makers’ reliable? how come they have thought of telling other costumers their experiences? Maybe they are giving us the truth. It seems that those heard voices over the radio, and television are worth-believing due to their dramatic fashion of gratitude giving to the product.

In contrast, What urged them to share so? Are they payed after interview? what scientific bases did they refer their claims? how many really were cured? More and more similar questions might rise.

Some group of anti-herbal madicine advocates would say “we must not directly believe in the advertisements, they’re such a deceptions, so what if they were cured, perhaps there were other factors which contributed to their recovery.”

The pro natural medication advocates would claim ” your just destroying the credibility of this product, we believe that there are those behind your protest who give funds for this improper accussation.”

The neutral side would just say ” whatever? we dont care, if will try and get cured, so be it, while if we try then failed, so what?”

To wrap it all, this advertisement could create multiple doubts or approvals which are ambiguous to the consumers. Buyers regardless of criticality might find hard time accepting or rejecting this product. Attitudes are set aside, but diggings of scandalous, mysterious and controversial features of Pau De Arco are at hand.

Peripheral usually depends on the rule of thumb meaning “more is better”, that the number of arguments present in a persuasive act matters. Simply it shows a persuasion less thoughtful and less relevant in in importance.

it’s a wonder how Fitrum presents their fatness-aid product despite the actual storm-like production of other much effective products of the same kind.

I decided to choose the advertisement ” Fitrum” which is currently endorsed by no other than award winning actress “Ms. Judy Anne Santos” because it seems that this advertisement comprises what is said to be a peripheral route.

Basically, Judy Anne’s popularity has helped a lot this product to draw more consumers and to influence more of them particularly women in realizing the timely importance of physical fitness and posture. Seemingly, Judy Anne was once a visible horizontally developing ( chubby) girl in the early stage of her career. Therefore, a viewer might immediately conclude that ” yah this showbiz icon long ago suffered so much from unwanted size, now look at her she’s advocating what frustrated her years ago”

In other words, when she said “magtry na rin kayo”, her audiences have a tendency to forget who speaks for the product focusing on the credibility of the product endorser, neglecting the possibilities of side effects and faulty features of this product. Evaluation and religious authentication are beginning to fade out of picture. This could be essentially the mere idea of peripheral route, attitude manipulation as a result of credible presentation of a idea.

pieces of advice

So what’s the point?

Dear Jim,

This story of yours is never new, a very typical boyfriend and girlfriend engagement in a such promise-filled situation. But, dont be anxious about this thing bothering you. The solutions are so simple. Allow me to cite some.

In the early stage of your togetherness, you were so aware that Shelley has a diary of her own, unknown and mysterious. But, Regardles s of its content, restrictions and limitations should be observed by you Jim.Why? Let me begin this by introducing to you ” Baxter and Barbara Montgomery’s Relational Dialectics theory” which I bet in someway could be of use to you.

“No relationship can exist unless the parties sacrifice some individual autonomy”-Baxter

Next, I think this is much better theory to rely with in expressing your problem, the concept of “stability and change certainty” suggests that human also needs bits of mysteries during a relationship which add flavor to a less tasty getting together. More novelty, further touch of spontaniety, and of course, occasional surprises would help prevent stagnant relationship.

Without a variety of season in relationships, situations may become boring less productive and perhaps emotionally dead. Indeed if you dont want this to happen, refrain from thinking too much about that diary. Man, you can do it.

Look at this another perspective, maybe she’s fond of just showing her inner thoughts and feelings alone with a piece of a writing pen sketching intimate details on a flat paper. Probably, she has perceived that compiled note of secrets, things she is in doubt of sharing with you, as her only outlet of unfoldable emotion. If this is true, it could just propose her less expressiveness and openess towards people. Not anyone, not even you, may impose her to change and disclose the way you want her to do so.

In every relationship, often in a romantic one, each romance partaker normally undergoes a fear of admission that he/she is undoubtedly in love. Therefore, this is paradoxical, circumstacial. this could support or perhaps explain why your girl is discreet.

Another advice I can offer you is to keep in consideration what to reveal and what to hide. try talking to her, explain to her what you feel could make your relationship better, and patiently tell your heart’s opinion on how you wish her to be behaving while inside the commitment. Its nice if both of you would share.

Always remember that communication creates and sustains relationships. Verbal approach to problems can determine if your romantic affair right now is of good catch or not. Dialogues matter and greatly affect relational development.

Mutual sense of communication, completion or wholeness in the midst of fragmented experiences don’t last-Baxter.

your concern friend,

Marc Pelaez

So long til it’s gone

Dearest author,

Individuals must be understood within the context of the family system. In this issue, individualistic point of views must be set aside for the mean time.

Always put in account that individual motives and personality traits determine the nature of communication within a family. It’s no wonder to observe that the treatment you get from your family is dependent on how you communicate with them. Your parents’ dealings with you is how you act to them unless there are some factors affecting it.

Individual actions are less given concern but individual behavior towards group is payed attention.Basically, for some, you are seen as a very nice person and perhaps for some close friends of yours, they do also perceive you like that.However, you as a person may vary from one group’s perspective to another. This is essentially true. Therefore, I encourage you to understand or discern all that your family would say about you. More, relationship messages are always the most important element in any communication.

Unhealthy relationship only gets better when meta communication ( a communication about a communication) is observed. I advice you dear author to kindly take time and effort of telling your family how much you are dismayed by them because maybe through it that you may feel better.

Family relationship are often highly resistant to change. This is a real.

Please remember that every communication has a content and meaning. In accordance to the narration, maybe it was not really meant by your younger sister to released those painful words. I think its more advisable to observe whether until now, every time you see each other, you see her the same as the moment she told you those words. Accepting new frames, new understandings of what she did to you may aid and answer your questions.

Symmetrical interchange is based on equal power while complementary is the difference. Your parents must be very particular to authorizations, it’s typical. That even if they are doing things which are worth-commenting, they remain unquestionable. And no matter how hard you convince them that your old enough and relatively mature to know what’s good or not, still you are deprived of freedom, of their educating. On the other hand, your sister (a fallen angel, gift from heaven according to your parents) who mistakenly did something was out of blame. Imagine the irony.

The time you have spent outside portals of your house contributed to your feeling of newness, unusual, technically nothing big change occurred in your family setting rather it’s just that you maybe unconsciously reformed your mind setting while you where away. Therefore, the elements of time and space may have provide your dilemma with answers.

Lastly, perhaps one way of dealing with this is to analyze the situation from the outside in order to defeat unwanted reigning rules inside your household which in fact you feel awkward or questionable.

content and relationship make up a communication seq

your concern friend,

Marc Pelaez

nt and relationship make up a communicatio

facial snubbing or shyness

topic: facial snubbing/shyness

It’s so visible that doing facial snubbing normally connotes either hatred or shyness due to a lot of factors like for instance admiration. Basically, it can be characterized as a habitual sarcasm or occasional shyness. But, for most people who notice such, this activity is not a tolerable one. Some may speculate that perhaps he/she who’s doing it is socially angry, a world hater, a cynical person or even worser. Yet what could be the bases of determining whether a practitioner of this activity is portraying shyness or the other way around ( disliking )? More, The bias notion about this issue is the mere tendency of most people to conclude that the involvement of anybody in this activity gives him an impression of sarcasm. To prove that facial snubbing should not all the time be negatively associated to bad attitude or behavior towards society by the doer is the study all about.Significance of the study:

Basically the main benefit of my proposed study is to aid or help prevent other people in creating immediate bad impression/s about someone doing such facial snubbing without further observation. More often, in an individual level, it’s morally improper to tolerate tendencies of prejudging someone observing the said communication act. Moving on, in an organizational level, members could possibly begin fight/s or even misunderstanding/s after sending negative interpretation/s to those who do snubbing.

In conducting this research, one may learn to be more observing, lenient, and rational in interpreting others’ intention/s of facial snubbing regardless of its frequency. This can be possible only if relevant communication theories and ways on how to improve non-verbal reading will be cited and be suggested to people focusing on facial meaning-giving.

Possible beneficiaries of the study:

Students, secondary and undergrad enrollee or even out of school, can possibly benefit from this. It’s one of the most obvious social problems by them nowadays. Sometimes by just a simple ignoring of the face, students start backbiting/s, verbal insult/s, or in worse situations, physical assault/s. On the other hand, in the elementary level, they are not the much concern of this study because of age factor as explained by their psychological, and social development.

Prospect sources:

1. Interpersonal deception theory by David Buller and Judee Burgon

2. Uncertainty Reduction Theory

Internet sources:

1. Google.com

2. Yahoo.com

3. (still looking)

Conduct period:

I’m planning to begin my work by the 14th of the present month. But for the mean time, I’m still arranging my schedules to avoid time conflicts and for convinces.

~ by Marc Pelaez on January 10, 2008.

strangers, drinkers, and messengers

During the evening of mid December of the leaving year, in Dr. Evelyna Ayson’s boarding house, her housekeeper, whose name is Landoy, a native Bisaya speaker, accompanied two old time friends; One is a native of Ilonggo language, his name is Tonton, while the other one is Charles, a Phil Am who formerly settled in Miami , Florida . The three of them, Kuya Landoy, Tonton, and Charles were on the verge of initiating a liquor session when I incidentally passed their way. At first, I never thought of drinking that night due to my feeling of stranger-fear, yet as Kuya Landoy greeted me with a smile, and I caught the inviting smirk of his, I finally decided to spend time with him and my newly met drinking partners.

 

Tired and bored, everyone was waiting and on the watch to anybody who would like to spearhead the conversation. Noticeably, Kuya Landoy, as our common friend, was more than willing to perish the reigning silence and expectedly he did so. Right after, Tonton followed who basically understood kuya Landoy’s language due to the proximity of Bisayan language to Ilonggos. Then, I took the next role to be the next speaker. And so the exchanges of jokes and humorous insights progressed. However, it seemed that Charles, who is obviously a knower of no more language but English, felt the language barrier which resulted to his apparent stillness.

 

Nothing, not a single word was heard from him. His face depicted a thousand epochs of confusion highlighted by eyes full of questions and uncertainties, and often lips movements. He diverted his attention to the Christmas decors surrounding us, amplified the stereo’s sound. No doubt, he was out of place.

 

His face began turning red manifesting the alcohol effect. He spoke “more beer, more ice” obliging everyone to attend to his request, it was a shocking behavior because an hour ago he was so serene, untouchable, and unmindful. But Tonton said in response “It’s too late already and the stores are no longer open, no more beer to be sold.” The Phi lAm got mad and decided to walk alone in the darkness to purchase what he liked. Luckily, before he did so, Kuya Landoy stood and tried to stop him by words but it seemed that he could not stop him, Indeed, I also left my chair and do the same of stopping him“ Sir, would you please come yourself down?” I voiced. Worst, he just ignored and snubbed my words “hei! Let me go. Who the hell are you anyway? You know nothing about me, the problems I’ve been facing lately” he said. There was nothing changed, not until Tonton spoke, “Charles, would you mind come yourself down? We are not at home, we’re in Mintal.” Then, Kuya Landoy followed “pagpuyo, basig makatabang me, iingun daw ang imuhang ginabati”. “What Landoy?” Charles shouted. After, I translated what Kuya Landoy told. “May be we can help.” “Really?” he replied. “Yes, we’ll try.” I smiled. Thankfully, everything went fine; he calmed himself and took a sit. He asked apology for what he had become.

 

All throughout the night we just talked about himself, his problems, both personal and public knowledge, he began saying “Give me five Marc.” And I did. After his dialogues, I felt also the urge to share my own versions of problems and my ways of coping up. I suggested them to him which he deeply appreciated. Then, Ton-Ton came sharing his problems as well with different styles of overcoming them. Next Landoy did the same.

 

We also opened up some secrets (issues of virginity, vices, how to win a woman’s heart in no time and a lot more to mention). We devised games, so stupid were they yet fun filled . We found out also a lot of similarities and dissimilarities in our fields of interests, (I found out that I was not alone in Kiamoi eating addiction for TonTon and Charles do as well. Tonton loves Basketball and hates American football while Charles prefers to play American football over basketball. Kuya Landoy loves to stay at home, but, in contrast, the three of us are fond of strolling).

 

When the next crack of dawn arrived, we said farewell to all. Tonton held my phone and told me to get in touch with them, we exchanged numbers. Charles on the other hand, asked for my e-mail address and frendster account’s name. Charles taught me of a handshake he learned from abroad symbolizing peace and further friendship. All of us did that with such enjoyment. And we departed ways, Kuya landoy and I stayed, Charles and Tonton went home.

 

 

Kuya Landoy

 

I live together with Kuya Llandoy on the same boarding house for quite sometime. At first, we really did not take a care and time mingling with each other; it’s as if we’re total strangers. However, in the progress, the high uncertainty level reigning among us began decreasing. More, I slowly unfold information’s about myself to him and in return, he does it as well. This resulted to further self-disclosures. Moreover, as said a while ago, uncertainties declined, hence, reciprocity rate declined as well. Sometimes we identify similarities and dissimilarities in chosen endeavors (I found out that we share common interest in liquor drinking, I hate milkfish eating which in contrast he dearly loves)

As time went by, he keeps telling me a lot of himself manifesting the communication comforability present and increasing intimacy and liking due to understanding.

Technically, crediting my little knowledge on Bisaya speaking which is a sister language of Illongo, my vernacular, I was able to mutually and effectively communicate with him under common communication network ground.

 

Charles

 

It was basically our initial encounter, therefore, in a nut shell; we got no smoothly moving communication. As seen over the narration at the top, the uncertainty level present between us was essentially high. For instance, when I lend him a hand while he pushed himself to buy some more beer, what he confirmed in me was neglection and indifference. In the long run, that mini wall which hindered certainty amongst us began breaking, and establishing a common door where our understanding nourished.

 

Tonton

Though I can converse through Illongo usage for I’m one, still the uncertainty level between us is too high, making it less possible for us to have much of it. The need for more moment of interactions and getting in touch is a must.

 

Legend

! = Visibly high

? = Visibly low

note: these tables are provable by axioms table in the textbook

I	I	Kuya Landoy	Charles	Tonton
Axiom 1		!	?	?
Axiom 2		!	?	?
Axiom 3		?	!	!
Axiom 4		!	?	?
Axiom 5		?	!	!
Axiom 6		!	?	?
Axiom 7		!	?	?
Axiom 8		!	?	?

II	Kuya landoy	I	Charles	Tonton
Axiom 1		!	!	!
Axiom 2		!	!	!
Axiom 3		?	?	?
Axiom 4		!	!	!
Axiom 5		?	?	?
Axiom 6		!	!	!
Axiom 7		!	!	!
Axiom 8		!	!	!

III	I	Kuya Landoy	Charles	Tonton
Axiom 1		?	!	!
Axiom 2		?	!	!
Axiom 3		!	?	?
Axiom 4		?	!	!
Axiom 5		!	?	?
Axiom 6		?	!	!
Axiom 7		?	!	!
Axiom 8		?	!	!

IV	Kuya Landoy	I	Charles	Tonton
Axiom 1		?	!	!
Axiom 2		?	!	!
Axiom 3		!	?	?
Axiom 4		?	!	!
Axiom 5		!	?	?
Axiom 6		?	!	!
Axiom 7		?	!	!
Axiom 8		?	!	!